I used to notice the 'simulated' gear changes on my 2021 car . Didnt mind it at all. I dont notice it much on my 2024 car. Maybe I'm used to it now, or its because my hearing is 3 years older

But I think you need to be careful not to confuse simulated changes with genuine changes in noise level due to changes in ICE running speed. The mk4 can have 'sweet spots 'Maybe more than one depending on relative speed and load. Easing back only slightly on the throttle to remain within the sweet spot can allow the ICE to drop the speed ,noise level and fuel consumption it needs to keep the HV battery charged. It may even prompt it to go into EV mode more often.
I often use this technique when going uphill or deciding the most economical cruising speed. A slight easing back on throttle ,or driving only a mph or two slower, sometimes results in a big drop in engine noise with little or no drop in performance. The affect on fuel consumption is immediately visible on the constant consumption display bar.
The car may change engine speeds automatically without you consciously trying ,eg if you just happen to ease off the throttle . These could be mistaken for a quasi gear change.
The mk4 responds very well to gentle driving techniques. Also still performs quite well if you just want to drive it like you stole it
Do the flappy paddles on the sport make much difference to the driver experience? I imagine that having frequent changes in 'engine braking' levels might partially simulate the sporting affects of a manual gearbox , and if used to the optimum might increase the regenerative braking contribution to recharging .I dont use B mode much so not sure I would use flappy paddles often . But you never know until you have them
