To start with, our car is parked in a garage underneath our apartment, so it is never covered in snow or ice when we leave home in the winter.
Perhaps it would be useful to explain how we use the seat and steering wheel heating when it is really cold.
At the start we switch off the heating system completely, but switch on the seat and steering wheel heating. When a trip is planned over a (very) short distance (for example a shopping center), no more than a few kilometers/miles, the heating remains off (it would still be ineffective or barely effective at the "finish" anyway). However, the seat heating is effective after a very short time.
If a longer trip is planned, the start is identical, but the heating is switched on (and seat and steering wheel heating off) after some time, when the ICE has warmed up reasonably.
If the windows start to fog up, that is of course also a sign to turn on the heating. Fogging is hardly a problem for us as the car is kept in a frost-free, dry garage.
And as a born Dutchman, I also think: I paid for the seat and steering wheel heating, so I also use it, otherwise it would have been a waste of money.