I'm resurrecting this discussion now that I have first-hand experience of the three bong problem which is annoying my wife even more than it's annoying me. As already noted, it's hard work trying to controlling speed to 19.9mph in the increasingly proliferating 20mph zones and Honda's system is intolerant of driving at the speed limit. I have dashcam evidence of the bongs occurring at 20mph (ie not speeding) which, I suspect to the alarm being triggered by the displayed speed (actual speed plus at least 1mph, perhaps 2mph) rather than using the actual speed as the reference.
The EU Intelligent Speed Assistance regulation
https://eur-lex.europa.eu/legal-content/EN/TXT/PDF/?uri=OJ:L:2021:409:FULL provides manufacturers with several alarm options including a vibrating steering wheel or accelerator pedal which the driver would notice (even if hard of hearing) but wouldn't disturb the passengers. There's plenty more in that document.
The EU regulations also encourage a secondary source of speed limit data although speed signs take precedence. The Here mapping provides this which probably explains why Honda is using now this on the Jazz sat-nav. This probably explains why the vehicle now displays the speed limit all the time instead of '--' if it hasn't seen a sign recently but can also provide misleading information through roadworks with speed limits if there aren't sufficient signs.
Another bug in Honda's implementation of ISA is that it appears to apply a speed limit as soon as it can read a speed sign rather than when passing the sign. This results in the three bongs even while the vehice is slowing down before the speed limit is applicable.
A further annoyance is getting the three bongs when decelerating after the driver realises that they have exceeded the speed limit when accelerating after traffic lights / junctions / roundabouts / etc. This is easily done with the e:HEV system with plenty of low speed torque.
Ultimately, concentration on watching the speedometer to try to avoid the bongs creates a new safety hazard.