Finally had some time to read and research myself. The 12v battery (in my boot) is not used to start the car, just to start the electrics, as the previous poster above has said, so in this respect my RAV4 is like the Yaris. There are jump start locations under the bonnet to start the RAV4 but I have so far not found anything about starting anther car FROM the RAV4.
I am a little concerned that the Jazz didn't jump start from the Polo, but that may be down to the quality of my cables. I think they might have been a petrol station bargain, a bit like my old steel tow cable, which broke the first time I used it rescuing an out of fuel VW bus from a dangerous bend before the RAC got to her.
I am hoping the battery will recover using the Halfords charger, but I suspect this might be a 12 hour job so I'm not holding my breath. Failing that the local Halfords have a Yuasa battery in stock I can get tomorrow for £89. Seems expensive but needs must.
EDIT: After more reading, I am finding that it is not a good idea to attempt to jump start FROM a hybrid and I am not surprised it wasn't successful. I am relieved that the RAV4 seems to have survived.