As someone who had a Mk 3 Jazz for a year before changing it for a HR-V I can confirm that there is much in common between the two vehicles in respect to the issues you raise. The touschscreen system is very similar, if not the same.
The HR-V is, in one aspect, evern worse than the Jazz, because the heating / ventilation controls are also a touch panel which needs eyes taken off the road ahead in order to make simple adjustment. Its usability is not helped by being located below the main touchscreen system. The touch heating / ventilation control should have been binned on safety grounds, besides which it usn't usable if wearing gloves!
That annoying touchscreen OK button (another safety hazard) could be easily fixed by linking it to one of the radio control buttons on the steering wheel as we know the system reads inputs from those buttons. As all the manufacturers seem to be heading down the touchscreen route, the vehicle safety assessments need to be modified to include the internal controls.
Your issues 5 and 6 are, while still software, part of the main vehicle control system which, fortunately, seems to be more reliable than the touchscreen thing. I have also noticed (but only once or twice) my HR-V headlights coming on as main beam but never noticed that on the Mk 3 Jazz so maybe that is an HR-V specific issue although I had put it down to accidentally moving the lighting stalk. I would also want the proper off position on the light switch but, if Honda don't what to give us that autonomy then at least de-link the headlights from the rain sensor. I presume that the Japanese don't get raindrops on a sunny day.
I carried out a thorough desk study of the Kia Niro before getting my HR-V and that vehicle has a much more user-friendly set of controls than the Jazz / HR-V including some physical buttons for selecting the main touchscreen functions http://www.kia.co.uk/new-cars/range/mid-sized-cars/niro/allnewniro.aspx#&gid=1&pid=9
. Kia have also signed up to Android Auto. Sensibly Honda will go down that route although it would mean no further development effort to sort out Honda's own system.
These software issues must be impairing Honda's reliability record. While they aren't causing breakdowns, they are resulting in unneccessary time at the dealers. In the longer term, who takes responsibility for fixing the bugs when the vehicle is out of warranty. My position is that if problems can't be easily fixed by the occasion reboot then they fall into the latent defects category for which the seller has liability even after the warranty period. Perhaps I should be asking the boss of Honda UK if he concurs.
So why didn't I get the Niro? There was a touch of "better the devil you know than the devil you don't know" as I worked towards the conclusion of my deliberations.